Financial Support
We had an interesting day yesterday. She was grumpy with me most of the day, because I said that a one-day, uncertified strength training course in the capital city Jakarta, was not worth the expense. For the same money (including air travel and hotel) she could complete a certified personal trainer course that would benefit her when applying for immigration to Australia, and would also enable her to work as a personal trainer when needed. I wanted to support her to do the more beneficial course or for her to study the course is Australia.

She had almost recovered to a better mood, when, for a few seconds, I reacted with amazement to the total cost of dinner when she went to pay (with money I gave her to pay). I quickly realised that the cost was reasonable, said so and apologized. But she was fuming. I tried to recover the mood by playing some arcade games together, but she repeatedly refused to participate. I then endured a dangerous and wild ride home on the back of her scooter.

In the ensuing argument back at the hotel, she told me that I was stingy and that our relationship was troubled as there were many things she did not like about me. She returned the engagement ring and was about to walk out.

Eventually she stayed, but the stingy label seems to have stuck. I have, in fact, supported her financially for almost all of her expenses for past year. I have also paid for her to travel (all expenses) to Hong Kong twice, four trips throughout Indonesia, and a world trip to Malaysia, Uzbekistan, Latvia, Italy, Dubai and Singapore. On top of this, I have bought her a lot of gifts, including the engagement ring. Stingy? I don't think so.

So all of this leaves me wondering, of she considers me stingy now, what then for the future. She does not work, has no work experience, and has no qualifications. She reached junior high school through home schooling. She wants to train full time and has no plan to ever work. Quite a story ...

Also, she stated it clearly, there are many things she does not like about me. She says that I am carping, fussy, boring, inconsiderate, inattentive and irritable. Quite a list ... I have not heard her say something nice about me for a long time.