Joao
This is a really irtnnestieg discussion because I'm going through my own break down right now. After uni I started traveling Asia. I didn't back pack, but taught English for a year a couple of different places. About 2 years ago I came back to get my masters in the hopes of getting jobs abroad teaching something other than English. Well I'm finishing up now and find myself in a serious relationship where we r looking for an apartment together. And it's not the fear if commitment to him I'm worries about, but the thought of not moving around scares the crap out of me. He's not the type to pick up a back pack and go and I'm not the type to buy a house with a white picket fence. So I keep thinking, which is more important? The great guy or the freedom to roam around? I love the comment about always looking for the next high. that's a really irtnnestieg point and I think I agree. If all u do is travel, then traveling is ur routine and difficult to break just as someones elses daily routine. So to continue to grow u need a different kind of change- commitment. This all definitely makes sense, and as much as I believe it, it seems really hard to do. I actually have great anxiety when thinking about staying somewhere for more then a year or two (probably longer than most ppl here). Does the anxiety go away? Will I ever feel comfortable staying in one place for longer? I trick myself by saying we'll move in a year or two, but knowing him it probably won't happen. R there any psychological studies on this phobia? I'd love to read some journal articles about it. I think I might need to see a psychologist anyways.
Joao This is a really irtnnestieg discussion because I'm going through my own break down right now. After uni I started traveling Asia. I didn't back pack, but taught English for a year a couple of different places. About 2 years ago I came back to get my masters in the hopes of getting jobs abroad teaching something other than English. Well I'm finishing up now and find myself in a serious relationship where we r looking for an apartment together. And it's not the fear if commitment to him I'm worries about, but the thought of not moving around scares the crap out of me. He's not the type to pick up a back pack and go and I'm not the type to buy a house with a white picket fence. So I keep thinking, which is more important? The great guy or the freedom to roam around? I love the comment about always looking for the next high. that's a really irtnnestieg point and I think I agree. If all u do is travel, then traveling is ur routine and difficult to break just as someones elses daily routine. So to continue to grow u need a different kind of change- commitment. This all definitely makes sense, and as much as I believe it, it seems really hard to do. I actually have great anxiety when thinking about staying somewhere for more then a year or two (probably longer than most ppl here). Does the anxiety go away? Will I ever feel comfortable staying in one place for longer? I trick myself by saying we'll move in a year or two, but knowing him it probably won't happen. R there any psychological studies on this phobia? I'd love to read some journal articles about it. I think I might need to see a psychologist anyways.